Describe the relationship with your spouse... Well, lets just start out with our love story...
Meeting my soulmate... my memories of the first day we met.
Starting out on our own... my memories of the first two years of our relationship.
Taking the next step... my memories of our engagement and marriage
I didn't grow up in a family that expressed their love, openly. Though I know my family loves me, I didn't feel loved and cared for, or protected the way that I believe that a child deserves to be. When I met Oscar, and his family, I finally felt the love that I felt was missing in my life. I remember the first time that Oscar's dad hugged me, and I felt so awkward, because no one had actually hugged me for years before that. I think that meeting Oscar and being loved by both him and his family has changed me forever. I believe that being loved, supported, and protected by Oscar gave me the courage to mend the hurt feelings I had with my own family, as well. I honestly don't know if I could be healed from the past hurt that I have experienced, without Oscar. I know that my family would probably agree that Oscar being in my life has actually brought us closer together, and I suspect that is a big part of the reason that they love him so much.
Oscar isn't regularly a very romantic guy, but he is surprising and very romantic when it counts. Our engagement, for example...if you read "Taking the next step..." you will know that our engagement was somewhat non traditional, but nonetheless he made it very special, on his own terms. Oscar is just that way. He does things the way that he thinks they should be done, but he is so thoughtful. Last Christmas he couldn't wait to give me my Christmas gift... I think I got it at least a week early, it was a fancy pair of Ugg boots. Those that know me best, know that I have always wanted a pair but being the reasonable and conservative spender that I am, I will typically purchase a similar off brand boot to save the extra money, but still get "the look"; however, off brand isn't Oscar's style and he thought I needed them. I was so shocked when I saw them that all I could say was "I never would have purchased these for myself, thank you so much!" ... later I confirmed that the boots were the best boots I have ever owned, and they "feel like I am walking on clouds!" haha. Our first Christmas was the same... I had been eying a new pair of Seven jeans for months, but I already owned a pair (they were my favorite jeans) and just couldn't justify spending $160.00 on a pair of jeans when I made $8/hr working at Macys. He bought them for me. Oscar really wants the very best for me, even if I don't feel like I can have the best, because I typically put everyone else's needs before my own.
Oscar has been by my side through unimaginable heartache. He has held me while I cried, he has helped me to open up my closed off feelings, because with him I feel safe and like no matter what I could ever say, he will accept me as I am and love me all the same. I could tell Oscar anything and he knows more about me than anyone in this world.
Oscar is an amazing father, the best father I could imagine for my kids. He loves them and guides them, he is tender and caring, and he is firm when needed. He backs me up with the kids, and I do the same for him. We are a team. He appreciates me. He is my partner, the love of my life, and my best friend.
1. I love their dad with all my heart.
2. I want them to each have, in their own relationships, what we have in ours. I want my daughter to accept only a husband that will love and care for her, support and protect her. I want my son to be the kind of man that loves and cares for his wife and family, and the kind of man that supports and protects his family, too. Nothing is perfect and no relationship will ever be perfect. The key is to accept the other person for their positive attributes as well as their faults. You must also seek personal growth. Sure, no one should want to change you, and you shouldn't change yourself for anyone; however, positive changes and adjustments are what keep the relationship together and keep the love alive. Giving love is the key to receiving love and accepting someone, including the faults and sometimes mistakes, shows you what it is really like to unconditionally love someone. Give to receive and marriage is forever.
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